I loved Ebony’s Blog Post because it is a very real topic that many of us debate on a daily basis. Let me say first and foremost that I think Going natural for our daughters does matter, it matters a whole lot. I could take a step back and say that going natural period has its perks, but if you want to set an example of acceptance even if its just with hair for your little girl then why not make the sacrifice.
There are a few schools of thought at play here, one is that we live in a society where adorning ourselves to the point of self distortion is attractive, encouraged and widely accepted. We live in a world where a woman wearing a weave does not think twice about where that human natural hair came from and what sacrifice was made to get it on her head so she can look fly Friday night at the club.
My boobs are too small, my cheeks look weird, I hate my skin tone, bleach this, enhance that, nip this, tuck that, plump this, erase that line! the images of enhancement are all around us and unfortunately our daughters are exposed to ideas that self enhancement is always necessary. As a matter of fact we have all done something to enhance our own beauty at some point in time, I mean lets face it, make up is a multimillion dollar industry! ~ tell me you have never owned some lipgloss!?
My opinion is all that doesn’t matter, what we want to teach our children is that life is about choice. If you are a religeous person thats how things started out, Choice, Do I eat the apple or not?
You want to tell your sweetheart that yes, there are things out there that people do to enhance themselves, but lets get to know ‘us’ first. Lets get to know the potential of our mind, the value of our body and spirit and how we can better serve as humanitarians, because to be human means giving back just as much as we receive.
Natural hair is not ‘Everything” it just seems like it is because you might be reading a blog dedicated to natural hair, it might be a small or big part of your life, who knows, but it is a great start, for teaching appreciation to a young girl who might not be sure that what grows naturally from her is good enough. Mommy s have a wonderful role, because they are the first role models to their little girls, mommys are watched, followed, spoken about to friends, adored by children who are constantly learning.
I would never consider my natural hair as a fad because how can a fad naturally grow from my skull. A Fad, now considered a way of life for some, is what burnt the hec out of the middle of my head causing me to make some critical decisions when it came to my own hair care. A Fad is defined as a short lived craze, I don’t see my own hair as something short lived, unless I have a bald gene I know nothing about.
The point is, teaching young girls to choose self, starts with mommy and daddy, life is about making a choice. We cant run away from the influences of life as we know it, there will always be a ‘Fad’ or craze, or new thing to do, that doesnt mean we quit teaching about value, respect and honor – those might sound like huge things, and hair is just one little thing, but what matters is that one small thing that you use each day to help them ‘get it’! – Even if that thing is only hair